A few years ago when I was teaching, this little copy of the May 13th, 1955 Housekeeping Monthly ended up tucked in the agenda for a faculty meeting. It caused a few chuckles as well as a few very upset women. I more laughed, but was very awestruck with how much times change and some things never do. Basically, the article was, “The Good Wife’s Guide.” It included a few, “tips” on how to keep things running smoothly. The author remains anonymous, but I can’t help but wonder if it was in fact male. I found the paper today while I was cleaning.
It read this way:
* Have dinner ready, Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
* Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
* Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
* Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
* Gather up schoolbooks, toys , paper etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
* Over the cool months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. Afte all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
* Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (If they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourse the children to be quiet.
* Be happy to see him.
* Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in yourdesire to please him.
*Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
* Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or othe places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very rael need to be at home and relax.
*Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
* Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
* Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even it he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
* Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
*Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
* Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
* A good wife always knows her place.
I had to bite my tongue through this article. I could feel the sarcasm pooling on the end of my tongue. I think over all, I’m just grateful I wasn’t born until many decades later…okay 3 decades. After this Will may be wishing he was a 50s husband. Any thoughts?! …besides, I can’t remember the last time I tied a ribbon in my hair.
I think my kids are tired of pictures.
Here they are a bit more than tired of pictures. Props to Hudson for at least pretending to smile. Annie is honest about the whole thing and is obviously finished.
